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Graham How to Do What You Love- Camille Hollins

2017 April 14
by Camille

When I was younger, and my imagination wilder, my wish was to be a witch when I grew up, but when asked, I constantly told people that I wanted to be a doctor or a scientist because that is what I thought they wanted to hear and what I thought they would praise me for. Growing up, I continued this cycle; when my family asked what I wanted to do, I told them I wanted to be a doctor and have a high paying job, it seemed to make them very satisfied, but I never thought about what I really wanted to do with my future.

 

Graham tells that many people are like me and say they want to do any job that they think will benefit them in the future. He says that finding and doing what you love is a difficult task that many people do not often achieve because they are blinded by other priorities. I believe that this may be true for some people; I think that some people get trapped in jobs or careers that does not suit them because they chose to take a route for the benefit of their future. But, I also believe that not all people who get a job for money or prestige (praise from others) are failures of their own happiness. Some college students see silver linings when they think about the money or prestige they will make when they get their future career; they work hard and push towards their goal of the best paying, high-praising, job on the market. Sometimes these people love their jobs and are happy with their careers, and sometimes they are regretful.

 

My argument is that doing what you love is doing what you want to do the most. If it were to invent, build, experiment, write, teach, eat, run, swim, sing, dance, dig, clean, be rich, poor, or in between, then you should pursue your dream. Graham comes up with many tests to identify what you want to do in life, but my test would be to sit down and think about your future career. Think of any career, job, or interest that you may like. What is it? Is it different than what you want to do with your future? If it is, then you are in the wrong area of pursuit.

 

1)      What would you love to do with your future?

2)      Did Graham change your mind about what you want to do with your career/job/life?

3)      Did you agree with Graham about how to decide what to do with your future?

12 Responses
  1. nflang permalink
    April 14, 2017

    Graham’s argument is one that is often very difficult for me because I came into college not really knowing what I wanted to do. I took many into level classes, sought out some possible careers, and starting taking prerequisites for a few potential majors. Currently, I am a sophomore double majoring in econ and organizational studies because I am still unsure what my future career will look like. However, I am hopeful that the pathway I have chosen will open opportunities so that when I do figure out what I love and what I want to do with my career/job/life, I am able to pursue it. I agree with graham that we have to do what we love, but I also think that it is acceptable to still be unsure about what this may be.

  2. ahadt permalink
    April 14, 2017

    Although I can see the validity in Graham’s argument, I cannot say that it is the rule. Yes, many people do simply consider money and prestige when deciding on a career pathway but many more pursue something that is of true interest to them. I include myself in that latter category. I am interested in working in the social work field, an area of interest that isn’t the best paying but is highly rewarding. Rather than follow the route of money, it is my goal to positively impact the realm of social justice advocacy in this area. Since I am already aiming to follow my heart rather than what society tells me is important, Graham didn’t have any reason to change my mind. I believe that it is important that each individual follows their own values and morals when pursuing career opportunities. For some people, this lies in money and prestige while for others, it does not.

  3. yucweng permalink
    April 15, 2017

    I think this article is quite interesting especially talking about how to test whether you like the work or not. Graham said that we can use the amount and process of “producing” in the things we think we like and to estimate if we really like that work. I think that is a good method and it brings you the answer directly. I think some people said that they like to draw or write instead of sitting in the office doing work. However, have they ever thought about the situation if they need to produce/write/draw a certain amount of poems/drawings everyday? would they still enjoy doing that? Would they start to be tired of it? In my opinion, I think it is kind of hard to identify if we love the work we are doing or not, so I think if we actually enjoy the process of producing the work regularly, we might actually knowing ourselves that we “prefer” to do that job.

    Answering your second question, I don’t think I change my mind. However, his opinion did give my some new thoughts about it and make me think about if I really like what I am working on right now~ I think once we have the $$ figure out (even sometimes we need to do something we think we are not enjoying it as much as …), we can do whatever we want to do~ So I don’t necessarily think people should consider if they want to choose a job they like or not when they are in the college, because first of all, we need to be able to afford ourselves. Therefore, at that circumstance, we have grown up and we will use our knowledge and what we have known to figure out the job situation and our life balance~

  4. moubayed permalink
    April 16, 2017

    I do agree with Graham’s argument that it is hard to distinguish between doing what you love versus doing what will make you successful or benefit you financially in life. For me, I believe it’s important to have a healthy balance between being happy with what you love but also finding something that can support you in the long run monetarily. Sometimes doing what you love will not make the most money, but some people grow to love what they are doing in their everyday life if it provides them satisfaction and makes them feel a sense of purpose. I don’t believe people should pursue a career in something that will just make them a lot of money if they really don’t enjoy it. In my opinion, it is better to be happy than to be miserable making a lot of money because that is essentially what you will be doing everyday of your life. For me, I will be going into marketing which I enjoy but I also found a position that can support me for the time being while also being an industry I find fascinating. If I do not find a lot of pleasure in what I am doing and it gets mundane or boring, I won’t continue in the role and hopefully try to pursue something I find more enjoyable. It is not worth it to me to kill yourself in a terrible role just for the money.

  5. libdavis permalink
    April 16, 2017

    The idea of doing what you love I believe is pretty unrealistic. I believe that people should find a combination of doing something they enjoy that also allows them to feel prestige and have finances to support themselves. Personally, if I were to do what I love, I would focus on building a family where that would be my primary job to care for them and cook extravagant meals as that is a passion of mine while also giving back to the community by volunteering for various non-profit groups and mental health organizations. Cleary neither of these are a career that could support myself or my idealized family. Therefore, I have chosen to go into clinical psychology where I could still give back to people, but have it be at a price to my costumers that could support my idealized family. I believe happiness is working with what you have and creating the most favorable but above all else realistic possibility.

  6. halper permalink
    April 16, 2017

    I believe that your career should be something you enjoy, but it most likely will not be the passion of your life. Also, if you turn your passion into a career, it may slowly become less of a passion and no longer be something you truly enjoy doing. Thus, it ruins your passion once you rely on it to make money.
    When I was in middle school I dreamt of becoming a talk show host. I thought it would be a really fun job, and I’d get my hair and makeup done everyday, and life would be sweet. It still sounds like an amazing job but I realized that the goal of becoming the next Oprah is unrealistic for me. I don’t want to end up living in my parents house after graduation, unable to find a job in my preferred field, so majoring in something like broadcast journalism stopped being an option.
    I don’t think you should hate your job, and I don’t think you should choose a job that greatly interferes with your morals. I always debated becoming a criminal justice lawyer, but I realized the moral implications were far too much for me and I would not be happy in that career. Your job should be something you (somewhat) enjoy doing, and if you really, truly dread going to work everyday, find a new job. I don’t think most people get up in the morning and jump out of bed at 7 am in excitement to go to work, but it shouldn’t be gut wrenching and horrible.

  7. robincam permalink
    April 17, 2017

    Graham did not change my mind about what I want to do my life. I think Graham has a good theory but I think it is impossible to do. A job is not supposed to be a fun. A job is meant to provide you with the means to survive. This has been true since the beginning when cavemen would gather food all day. Far too often people think that a job is supposed to be fun and you are supposed to enjoy your work. You need to go to work so you can provide the best life possible for you. To relate this to Simon Sinek he presents the same argument in a different form. He says that working with millennials is hard because they have been taught that there is no results from hard work. Everywhere there is instant gratification. Because of this people believe that the gratification should transfer over to the workplace and are missing the point of having a job and going to work. Provide the best life possible for you and your family.

  8. msosman permalink
    April 17, 2017

    I completely agree with your argument that doing what you want to do the most will be the thing that brings you the biggest amount of joy. When I think about my future, I think about working in an area around the sports industry. What I will do with my sport management major, I am definitely unsure of but I know that it will be with athletes somehow because of my athletic background. I am very lucky and blessed to not have been pressured or pushed my whole life to become a doctor or lawyer. Instead, my parents have supported me in every way they can, never crushing my dreams, and provided guidance for me to be able to determine which job would be best for me.
    I think I could see myself as a physical therapist, doctor, or even a lawyer but now is the time to take a step back and critically analyze what is practical and figure out what I will enjoy the most for the rest of my life. I think there is a way to find happiness by adjusting to what you are doing and embracing it with all of your being, but ultimately your future is your choice and yours alone.

  9. nicoartz permalink
    April 17, 2017

    “Why are you going to be a teacher? The pay is horrible!”

    This is the statement I get the majority of the time when someone asks me what I am going to school for. They are immediately drawn to the paycheck and uninterested in why I want to be a teacher. Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of people that appreciate my profession, but then there are those that question why someone would do something that makes absolutely no matter.

    Graham had the answer to this; because I love it. If you love what you do it won’t even seem like a job and that is the most important thing. Sure, money can get you nice things, but if you don’t enjoy what you spend the majority of your day doing is it really worth it? I believe you should do what you are passionate about, what you love, what you see yourself making a difference in. These are the most important factors when deciding my future.

  10. pennellb permalink
    April 17, 2017

    My ultimate career goal is to become a novel writer. There are a lot of options I could take to start my career, for instance I could be a technical writer for a company. I could maybe start out as a travel writer, or I could work for a publishing company. I think I would like to work at a publishing company so I can get to know the process and also better my craft. On the weekends and in my spare time I would like to write, and hopefully someday make a career out of writing novels. But I do know ultimately I want to write so whether or not that will make me lots of money, I don’t mind because that’s what I love to do.

  11. madlevin permalink
    April 17, 2017

    I have always said in my future I want to do something with animals. Because of this proclamation, everyone has told me to become a veterinarian; however, that is the last thing I would ever want to be. Seeing hurt animals and even euthanizing animals would completely destroy me. So when I say I want to do something with animals when I am older, I mean that I want to have lots and lots of animals. I would love to run a refuge center for unwanted and abused animals. Yet in order to find the means to do this, I need to work hard enough to get the funding I need to make this possible. It’s not to say I do not want to work, but I have not found my exact “work” calling in life yet. There are many factors in deciding your future and I think what I want to do now, work related, may be different than what I would want to do in a few years. People change and so do circumstances, so I would like to test several fields in order to truly know what would benefit me the most. If I have to sit at a desk and be bored out of my mind for several years in order to gain prestige and wealth, then I am willing to make that sacrifice in order to do what I really want to do. There has to be losses in order for there to be gains. It doesn’t necessarily have to be this way, but I am prepared for a job that I may not like, but pays well, so I can have the future I have always dreamed of. If I don’t enjoy my day, I do not see it as not worth it, I see it as worth it for my future. In fact, most of us don’t enjoy our days now, slaving away at our computers and desks working so hard in school in order to get a job we “love.” We all make sacrifices and sometimes these sacrifices are made for a better future.

  12. eswisher permalink
    April 17, 2017

    I really enjoyed this Graham reading. I have never been one to do something solely for the money. I was not raised in a materialistic household. My parents are working class, so money has never been held to a high standard in my house. I have learned that you do what you have to do to get money to survive, and that is it. So in my opinion, you should do whatever you love to do as long as you will be able to survive doing so. I have a strong passion for helping others, so I want to pursue a career in that. I would like to pursue that specifically in the field of social work. This is what I would love to do with my future, and I fully anticipate following through with that plan. Social workers do not make very much money even though they are doing very important work, but I am okay with that. I know that I will make a living wage. Yes, I might not be able to afford the biggest house or the nicest car, but I will be able to provide for myself and my future family. I think that people’s backgrounds really influence their attitudes towards money. For example, someone who was raised in a high-class household might aspire to make a lot of money one day so that they can continue on with their high-class lifestyle. If that is what is important to them, then there is nothing wrong with aspiring for that, even if they don’t end up in a career they love.

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